I did some roto tilling yesterday. Quite a feat for a stroker the docs said would be wheelchair bound for life (and I was for eleven months).
Well, I’m still sore today and still pumping down aspirin, but hey. All is good. My soreness of muscles I forgot existed are out there reminding me they are still there and wanting (yeah right) to be worked/used.
Though my wife, Peggy, now works for a home-health agency (auditing nurses notes to be sure they are acceptable to medicare so the agency will get paid) in the past she has worked as assistant director in one assisted-living facility and as director of nurses in another. A couple
years ago a 104 year old woman who had resided in the home where Peggy had served as director of nurses (and I had led a volunteer weekly
chapel for over a year) passed away and we were blessed to be able to attend her wonderful funeral.
I do not usually respond in any way to my ‘horn being tooted’, but, you were such a sweetheart in what you said about me, I mailed a copy
from this site to my email box. I’m going to put it in my mom’s folder so she can read what another(s) think about her son. I might get a few brownie points, or better yet, a few brownies.
I am glad to hear Joe had a decent tine, and you. We must talk in our email boxes of a possible visit to you all. You know we’re in the same
state, just a different part (me mountains, you beach). Believe it or not, after 20 years in Clearwater, Florida, I’m kind of needing to
have a beach fix.
Of course he needs to see the physician to rule out possible causes that would be needing more aggressive treatment (ie. diabetes, etc). Venous leakage is the phrase of the era of ED, and it is a normally occuring change i in men as we age. Yes, it starts at different ages, and he is certainly old enough. The number one predisposing factor in ED is being a male over the age of 50. Of course the PDE-5 inhibitors – Tadalafil 20mg, 40mg, 60mg; Azithromycin 500 mg etc. are the first line of treatment for the docs, but has he tried “cock rings”. Many of us find them very helpful in retaining blood in the penis after an erection is attained, many varieties wold, they are not expensive, and he can experiment. Some of them are even designed with vibrating attachments to enhance the experience for you too. Many find the rings more helpful if pulled around both the base of the cock and the scrotum together. Hint, trimming will make application and removal far less of a painful ordeal. Gotta get the hair out of the picture, he doesn’t need a total shave (unless the two of you like that, lol), but trim and shave enough to make the area free of hairs to be pulled on, OUCH!!
David, I dobn’t know the answer to the why;s but I know I sure like wat I saw. You are charming and very eloquent. Heck even Joe likes you
as you are, he is usually indifferent to people he doesn’t realy know. I find you amazing in trhe way you present yourself. I don’t know many
that hv never had a stroke that presents themselves in the confident way you do. Get on with your bad self, you charming devil you.
I can’t offer or hv anything to comment on not sleeping. I hv the opposite problem, I struggle to stay awake most of the time, I can lie down, shut my eyes and think…..go to sleepand I am quickly asleep. Like A Bolt Mary
For hemorrhagic strokes no reliable data exist, as causes are so different. For ischaemic strokes, life span after stroke may be longer than before stroke, if necessary measures against another stroke or cardiovascular happening are seriously taken.
I am Susan… I am the caregive for my mama..She had a massive stroke 11 years ago…I have put my life on hold to care foe her…..I thank
God everyday i have my mama…She is confined to a wheelchair however she is mentlly here….I enjoy her so much…I try to keep a positive
outlook on this situation…For she has proven the medical staff wrong….So Just don’t give up….Yes we do have days that seem to go
on and on and on…..God bless you all
I’ve always valued my independence and solitude. Not great attributes for a post-stroke life. My stroke helped me shed my reserve and gain a better sense of humor. One needs humor to put up with the indignities of depending on others for the dumbest things like stepping off an extra high curb or picking up something that dropped and rolled under the desk (two examples from this week alone!). It’s been liberating and I feel more connected to other people. I returned to work at an office I loved and worked in for about 8 years and have made new friends as well as renewing connections with old friends. I didn’t lose friends because of my stroke. Instead I learned to value friends and also casual acquaintances.
Humor? I used to be such a sourpuss. Or at least too reserved to be approached easily. The reserve is now gone. And these days I enjoy a good laugh and have discovered my own wit. As I left the office today I almost tripped as I stepped into the elevator. I took the opportunity to introduce my alien leg to the people already in the elevator – people I didn’t know. They laughed with me, and I think they laughed in appreciation of my dispelling their concern that I might fall (which was a strong possibility). Maybe disabled but not handicapped. (Huh?)
I’ve learned to depend on people. At Quaker Meeting others have “organized” to help me look after my almost 4-year old granddaughter. I’m not embarrassed or angry about being dependent. I’ve felt more connected to my Meeting than ever before.
Friends? I found them. They were always there but I didn’t know how to be a friend.
Nancy in Virginia
There probably is no such thing as “sure knowledge” but we all categorize things we hear or see as “probable”, “trustworthy”, “doubtful”, etc. Some “out and out lies” and some “facts” lie in that domain. In math, physicsm geometry, calculus it has become common to “prove” a
theory or formula with what is often called a “quadrilateral”. Looking at the same thing 4 different ways. If it “proves out” the same with 4 different approaches it becomes “trustworthy”. In theology Dr. Albert Outler who has retired from teaching at Perkins School of Theology at Southern Methodist University coined the term “The Wesleyan Quadrilateral” to describe the method that John Wesley (the founding minister of the Wesleyan/Methodist movement) used in developing his theology. He openly proclaims that Wesley never used the term but gives numerous of examples from Wesley’s prodigious writing of him basing his teaching on:
I believe it was true of John Wesley and is a good methodology.
If no one has believed and done it before its doubtful. Then “does it make sense?”, then had it happened to anyone in your own life experience?
Though he was speaking of theological thought the principles can be applied to any type of thinking or belief.
A college student at a recent football game challenged a senior citizen sitting next to him, saying it was impossible for their generation to understand his.
“You grew up in a different world,” the student said .. loud enough for the whole crowd to hear. “Today we have television, jet planes, space
travel, man has walked on the Moon, our spaceships have visited Mars, we even have nuclear energy, electric and hydrogen cars, computers with
light-speed processing, and, uh ..”
Taking advantage of a pause in the student’s litany, the geezer said, “You’re right. We didn’t have those things when we were young; so we
invented them, you little shit! Now what the hell are you doing for the next generation??”
I love senior citizens!